A long time ago while in college, I first heard of something called “transactional analysis.” One of the main principles of TA was that we each have three aspects to our personality: An adult, a parent, and a . The adult is the rational and logical part of us. The parent is the part that deals in should and shouldn’t. And the is the part that seeks joy. Well, my wanted me to come here to get laid. The parent in me thinks I should do my best to find a woman who can be a good friend as well as a lover. And the adult in me is thinking that if I look at the pictures and masturbate, we can get back to work sooner. Unfortunately, I give in to the adult far too often. My is too shy to put it’s needs first, and my adult has convinced the parent in me that I simply won’t find anyone good enough even if I try harder. Do I sound imperfect? Yeah. Quite. But aren’t we all? Perhaps this isn’t the kind of self evaluation you expected to find in a guy’s profile on this site, but the parent in me is telling me I should bare my soul if I expect to have any chance of finding someone really special here. The adult, however, wants me to make sure you know I’m not a basket case. I own my own business, and it’s doing well. Not well enough to make me a good target for gold-diggers, but well enough that you can be assured I’ll only drain you emotionally, and not financially. (Yeah. Great contribution to the profile, Mr. Adult.) And the in my wants to me to find someone who’ll find a way to coax him out despite the way both the parent and the adult sometimes oppresses him. So that’s me. A nut case in a nutshell, so to speak.

My Ideal Person A Supreme Court Justice once said of obscenity that he couldn’t articulate what it is, but he’d know it if he saw it. Well, that’s pretty much the same way I’d describe what I’m looking for in a mate.

On any given day, different physical characteristics can turn me on, or turn me off, especially out of the context of a complete woman. I do tend to be more attracted to soft and curvy than to hard and boney. And while I know that women are encouraged to never be comfortable with what they have, a woman who can muster the courage to go against the grain and admit to herself that she’s okay puts off a vibe that’s attractive to me.

Both the adult and the parent in me are attracted to women who can carry on a conversation about anything, although the child in me seems to prefer talking about TV shows like The Simpsons. (The parent likes to steer him towards My Name is Earl, and the adult wants to know why we can’t seem to watch the Sunday morning public affairs programs to get our conversation topics.)

Anyway, while the child in me would be happy with any woman who’s willing to play with my penis, the parent in me wants to make sure you’re someone I can talk to about how I really feel. And the adult in me would be satisfied if both the parent and the child in me could find someone to keep me company when I’m not working. The adult would prefer that we not have to resort to living a male version of the Spike Lee classic, “She’s Gotta Have It”. (Look it up. It’s essentially a practical exploration of Transactional Analysis!)

The adult in me also says you need to be somewhat local. A long distance relationship isn’t really practical, even though my dearly departed wife and I lived 450 miles from each other when we started our relationship. That pesky business I own keeps me geographically founded for now.

If you’re interested, send me a message, or a wink because while the parent in me thinks I should be more assertive in making the first contact, the child in me really likes being happy, and the adult in me says a few minutes looking at the live video feeds will take care of that more efficiently than sending messages to women who might not be interested would be.

BTW… It’s okay if you’re as neurotic as I am. It’s more a matter of whether our neurosis will compliment each other (most of the time) than it is of finding a perfect match.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Just about anything from the 70s or 80s

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
Now, Im craving your body, Is this real Temperatures rising, I dont want to feel Im in the wrong place to be real <br><br>
And I'm longing to love you Just for a night, Kissing and hugging and holding you tight Please let me love you With all my might <br><br>
Reasons, the reasons that we hear, The reasons that we fear Our feelings won't disappear
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Oooh! and after the love game has been played All our illusions were just a parade And all the reasons start to fade After all our reasons why All the reasons were a lie After all the reasons lo-ove was ne'er decide <br><br>
And, longing to love you for one night Please let me love you with all of my might Ooohhh, baby! <br><br>
Reasons, the reasons that we hear, The reasons that we fear Our feelings won't disappear <br><br>
Oooh! and after the love games have been played All our illusions were just a parade And all the reasons start to fade And, in the morning when I rise, No longer feeling hynotized For no reasons, our reasons, our reasons Have no pride <br><br>
After all the reasons why All of the reasons were a lie After all the reasons love was ne'er decide I cant find the reasons That my love wont disappear Cant find the reasons Why I love you, my baby, my dear Cant find the reasons Wanna love you all night Cant find the reasons Gotta squeeze ya, real tight Cant find the reasons Baby- yeah, For my tears Cant find the reasons Why I love ya.... <br><br>
(Earth, Wind & Fire: Reasons)

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Mutual Masturbation, Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Trying new things, Turning on my partner

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
I'd like to say I don't have fantasies about women
who are unattainable, but I have lots of fantasies about
unattainable women. They just aren't celebrities.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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