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My Profile, new and Updated Here is my new profile. As always, if you have any comments or suggestions, I would be happy to hear them. You can contact me on my Blog. Fully vaccinated as of April 1st. I'm a 40 year old, laid back, professor. I work hard so I can enjoy my time off. I moved to Wilmington a few years ago. Looking for a Friend and Lover. I would say FWB, but that seems to have a different connotation these days. I want someone I can talk and hang out with. laugh and joke and text obnoxious jokes to. Someone to cuddle up with and watch a silly show or movie with. And I also want a regular lover. Yes, a Lover. not just a quick fling. I want to spend hours in bed kissing and holding and pleasing one another. 50/50, you and me, finding happiness. I want to kiss and make out, slowly caress and worship your body for hours even before we get down to it. Though nothing wrong with fast and dirty and a little mean when the mood hits. More about me... I am 6'-2", average build. Glasses or contacts, whatever. Grey-blue eyes and my blonde hair is thin and mostly gone, kept cut short. I am clean and expect you to be as well. Yes, that includes disease free, but also just clean. If I am so amazing, how am I not taken? You might ask. Well... I am. I am happily married and completely honest with her. We are in an open, ethical, poly-amorous relationship. No she won't be joining us, she is Asexual. Yes you can ask if you are curious. I'm always happy to chat about whatever. She has asked me to follow a few rules. Stay clean and safe. Play elsewhere. Come home to her. She might ask questions and be curious, but she won't be joining us. She is asexual, not gay or bi. No, there is no "fixing that", so no need to ask. Stop being rude. And yeah, don't be rude. If you're still curious, and would like to chat, hit me up on my blog. I've set up a free way to contact me. As a standard member, I can't see emails. And I've only so many points to IM (if it even works LOL ). Speaking of my blog, if you are curious, I do have one. Sharing ideas. Feel free to say hi there. You see light dappling on the water and forget the deep, cold dark beneath. |
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Also for all those who aren't Gold Members, now you can check out my profile. You see light dappling on the water and forget the deep, cold dark beneath.
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Only one minor point of order - you are in an open, ethical non-monogamous relationship. Unless you currently have a "girlfriend" (as in a woman other than your wife that you have a committed loving relationship with in addition to your "primary" love relationship with), I would not consider you polyamorous. Also, depending on who you ask...many poly couples have both parties involved with the "girlfriend" which you have clearly indicated is not going to be the case. Maybe just semantics, but just a thought. That said...wish you lived closer (the old familiar refrain from this site). Because that is exactly the type of relationship I've craved for 6.5 years. Have gotten close a few times, but never really found the long term friendship/lover I desire. Still have some occasional fun, but it isn't the same. Sigh.
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Im not understanding how you can be in an open ethical poly amorous relationship and .....happily married and still be able to hangout...spend time with....spend long hours cuddling and whatever else with another person, in addition to working outside the home. That seems like the ideal arrangement but also impossible. The other thing is you would have to locate the being that is looking for the exact same thing. I mean anyone who is also not involved elsewhere may require more of your time, and her person also has to understand and buy into your relationship. Just my thoughts....Good Luck with it all ~~
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Good profile. I hope you find a wonderful lover 
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Side note - the best analogy I have found to how it is possible to love more than one person is the same way I didn't love my son less when my daughter was born...heart expands the amount of love it has to give. However, jajo696 makes a good point that while a heart can expand, the number of hours we have to give others doesn't. I imagine that it requires both an understanding wife and an understanding lover to share that limited resource. As for me, I have a pretty flexible work environment and could definitely share lunch hours and some after work hours with another man without affecting the time I have available for my husband by much. Also, hubs has a hobbythat I don't share that he gives at least one weekend day away from me each week. In another year when my kids aren't at home anymore, that is a day I could dedicate to another instead of just being home alone. The best experience I had was with a man that was in between jobs (so had some time during the day we could spend together - he had just left military and hadn't really found his next chapter yet) and he was divorced with children that went to mom's every other weekend (which allowed us a few weekend times together). Unfortunately, as his heart healed from his divorce, he sought a more traditional relationship where he didn't need to share that time with another man. So yeah...it is tough to find.
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