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Is AFF a secret from everyone who knows you?  

DiscreteSlowRide 54M
153 posts
7/19/2021 1:31 pm
Is AFF a secret from everyone who knows you?

Is it common knowledge among your friends and family that you are on NoStrings?

OR

Is this your dirty little secret?

Regardless if you have an open marriage, open relationship, if you swing, swamp, cross dress, dress up, dress down, strip ..whatever your purpose is here. Considering this is the one place that all fetishes, all alt lifestyle pleasures are accepted and welcome. How open are you about your presence here?
Don't Tell Anyone I am on AFF
I am fairly open about it
I attempt to maintain discretion
Why? What have you heard about me???
No one would ever imagine I am on here.
I Don't Care Who Knows


lust4life59 65F  
2552 posts
7/19/2021 1:45 pm

I don't shout it from the rooftops, but then again I don't attempt to hide it either.

But then again, I'm on a site much much more sexually explicit than this one.


Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
7/19/2021 2:39 pm

I haven't told anybody.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:11 pm:
The less people know, the less we have to explain.

justskin1 72M
13175 posts
7/19/2021 2:54 pm

Some people know and I am fairly picky who I let know. Then again, if someone finds out I wouldn't get upset. Besides, I have noted in my blog that if you recognize me from on here it is okay to say Hi justskin.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:02 pm:
There you go! You are owning your actions.

flannel_light 61F
4586 posts
7/19/2021 2:58 pm

It's my little dirty secret.

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:01 pm:
I'm with you! This is my dirty secret for sure!

countryqueen1 74F

7/19/2021 3:08 pm

Totally my secret, lol. No one who knows me knows this side of me


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:00 pm:
Same with me. No one would ever imagine I am on a site like this nor would they ever connect me with the experiences I wrote about.

shhhh

BiSussi 63F
1405 posts
7/19/2021 4:31 pm

Neither have I, couldn't afford it, office or family
Only by boyfriends and special girl friends know


I love pussies and adore nice dicks


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/19/2021 6:10 pm:
I hear you there! Business wise could be a problem for me and family...ugh...don't get me started on family.

nekkedcouple 63M/58F  
85 posts
7/19/2021 5:48 pm

We don't talk about it to our friends and family but we have been approached a few times by people who asked us "Excuse me, Are you nekkedcouple? from NoStrings?"


Wat2dowithme 81F
43 posts
7/19/2021 6:13 pm

It absolutely blows my mind how people try to hide. They claim it's due to work or privacy? If you're freaky and you want to get laid own up to it there's no reason for anybody be acting like a little BITCH about it. And seriously if someone you know sees your profile how would they explain that to anybody? Without looking like a dirty pervert themselves. Man up everybody 🤪


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/20/2021 9:39 am:
For better or for worse people will judge one's choices that fall outside of the norm.

Some of the people who have profiles here are some kind of public figure be it in their community such as teachers, in local government or business owners and so on.
As ideal as it is to say to the world... This is what I am into accept it or F off!!... Its simply not realistic.

Discretion is critical for such people. Not everyone is hiding from spouses and sig others.

Deepnwide76 47M

7/20/2021 12:11 am

I want to tell people but they wouldn't get it maybe I get more dick who knows but it being my secret is such a turn on


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 7:31 am:
Fair point. A lot of people who would never come here would not get it. I hear you. It's best to keep it to yourself.

Way2sassy412 51F

7/20/2021 12:49 am

Only one friend knows and he’s on here also. Most would claim I’m too sweet. My sexuality has floored more than one person. I hide it well I guess


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
7/20/2021 1:35 am

    Quoting  :

lol....so true....the way they treat us ~


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
7/20/2021 1:40 am

I have strict boundaries between personal and professional....very strict. Once i retire, i may consider being more open here. Then i think about anything we post here is property of the site to do as they may and considering they have been hacked more times than once. Its still a slippery slope....and makes no sense in having pics out there randomly. We shall see ~~

I voted...." no one would ever imagine "


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 7:33 am:
I'm with you. It is best to keep boundaries between personal and business.

basehorbicpl4fun 52M/42F

7/20/2021 6:19 am

i dont hide it at all. I love the fact that it is out there and everyone around me knows about it. It usually leads to a really good time with many more friends i find. Of course there are always exceptions but i say have fun while you can.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 11:48 am:
That has to be such a free feeling when being as open as you are opens the doors to broaden your reach in the swing community or within the groups who enjoy playing together.

rdy2try4 58F  
3330 posts
7/20/2021 7:21 am

I have been here for many years. I have always had a face photo. I do not hide that I am here at all! Why should I? I am not ashamed of myself nor what I am doing. I have said repeatedly I wish people did not have such a vision or view of this site that they need to hide they are here. I have seen men mostly say they would never marry anyone from here. WHY?? They are here too! Why is it that if you are on here you somehow are not worthy of being married? Why would you be ashamed of wanting to find someone that you can connect with enough to have sex with them? I wish with all my heart that people did not see this as a place that is dirty or you think the people on it are dirty and have a lack of respect for them be they male or female. It is an adult social network. Stop viewing it as an online whorehouse. I don't know anyone that truly wants to marry someone that won't have sex so why view looking for a partner, boy/girl friend, husband/wife, or just an encounter with someone you sexually are compatible with. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

I agree wholeheartedly to the ones that have posted that if someone sees you here THEY are here! You can't throw stones at someone that is doing what you yourself are doing. If you think someone will look down on you then maybe not have a dick pic or a vagina pic as your main pic??? Just a suggestion, but there is no reason to be ashamed to be on here. Wanting a healthy sex life with another person is good. If you put the view of this is an online whorehouse then that is on you, but you will find quickly that it is not.


luvstockings61 63M
25 posts
7/20/2021 8:13 am

A couple of (non-NoStrings) friends know I am on here.


Atxfemchub 37M

7/20/2021 9:30 am

My love of bwc's is a secret to everyone in the real world lol


bfc696969 37M

7/21/2021 12:26 am

i like to keep my sexlife private if youre in it youre in it, if not the fuck you until you fuck me


1just4fun61 63M

7/21/2021 6:55 am

What other site are you on?


fflkn4hotbabe 74M  
18 posts
7/21/2021 8:12 am

This site let's you be someone who can speak without someone judging me.


nwga1958 65M
17 posts
7/21/2021 12:30 pm

I have confided with several of my friends that I am on this site. I am very discrete about it but not ashamed of being here.


YesinFl2022 52M

7/21/2021 12:39 pm

Some things can be a secret...


Strongandvirile4 58M  
25 posts
7/21/2021 6:43 pm

Well people who I know on here know I am on it but for work purposes I try to maintain some discretion


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/21/2021 6:57 pm:
Smart. More people seem more concerned about their jobs than friends knowing.

For_Real2170 57F

7/21/2021 7:03 pm

It’s funny to me that some view being as “pushing the envelope” or taking a risk in some way. There’s an immaturity to so many of the users here and their way of presenting themselves and communicating.

I don’t think it was intended to be a place for men to post their dick pics and feel as though that’s their dirty little secret.

If used correctly, mature adults should be able to see each other’s faces, read thoughtful profiles, and connect accordingly.


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/22/2021 6:41 am:
It's interesting point you make about immaturity one finds on here because as many good people I have found on here, there are so many who are very small minded. Hence they way men greet women in a first email to them. Such as ... wanna f#ck? I wrote a whole point about this a few days ago about how social rules fly out the window on here. 50 year old adults are reduced to teenagers, which I guess is typical for a social site.

Can you imagine if people knew how to act their age here??

dwz5234 71M
2394 posts
7/22/2021 5:56 am

I really don't care who knows


tastemeY 57M  
148 posts
7/22/2021 7:43 am

A lot of friends know and a lot don't know. I've even had a co worker come up to me and tell me he and his girlfriend came across my profile. I beleive it's all about good clean, safe, sexual fun.


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