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The Healing Circle...
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The Healing Circle... Those who know me from blogland past, know I am a victim and a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I told my story of the abuse and the road to recovery in two posts, WALKING IN TH SHADOWS OUT OF THE SHADOWS The most damaging result of being abused is the secret we keep and the deep feelings of shame and fear that we harbor...the feeling that... "If people knew the truth, they wouldn't love me." This post (I hope) will become a meeting ground for healing...a circle if you will...where we can tell our stories and seek healing in a safe environment, with others who understand and can help. Please feel free to share a link or a story or an encouraging word, that we can send our demons away for good. If you've been abused and sharing here is still too scary, my inbox is always open...I'll help you any way I can on the road to healing. LUSTYTAURUS  |
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Lusty, I am proud of you. You continue to work through the abuse and become the man you were meant to be. I was sexually abused as a child by a step father. I was in therapy for years working through it and eventually lead me to become a Psychologist. It wasn't easy and I still have some residual effects.....I work on it everyday. Big hugs!
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No sexual abuse in my childhood,,,,,,, mental and physical abuse though. It's tough any way.......... 
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9/1/2007 6:41 pm |
I have a daughter who was , stabbed and abducted a few years ago. Part of her "healing" was to speak to others about it. When she tried to talk to others it wasn't too therapeutic especially when someone had said," if it had been me, I would have done this that and the other...". Another person just changed the subject. Abuse in any shape or form is painful, and others are not always open to hearing about it. None of us truly knows what we would do, if the "tables were turned". My empathy to all of you who have known the true meaning of despair.
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I know deep down from our talk that your dealing with this the best way you know how,by talking about it and sharing it with others(we heal each other).I believe I told you about my story and how it can affect the family also,we must share it and talk about it and never bury it deep inside otherwise it will eat us up!!!I was once told "We are as sick as our secrets" which is far to true.Take care bud,later Lusty
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9/1/2007 7:45 pm |
Thank you for visiting my blog while I was gone, hope you are doing well, see ya soon!! ~~~Have Condoms, Will Travel~~~  .......Stay Happy, Stay Safe, Stay Well........
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9/1/2007 10:44 pm |
Good stuff LT, I read those posts and it made me think. I know I'm not alone. roaming the cyber streets of blogland  
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9/2/2007 9:23 am |
**hugs to you this is really a wonderful thing your doing ad I hope it reaches those who need help in opening up all the dark hidden secrets locked in them and find some healing as you have done~ I applaud you
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9/2/2007 3:59 pm |
Hey Lusty Thanks for putting up a blog post to deal with this tragedy..the taking away of our childhood by evil monsters..It's a hard thing for me to deal with but talking about it helps
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Hi, I'm hippie, and I am an emotionally and sexually abused child. I look like a woman and function like a woman most of the time, but I haven't been able to embrace the child yet and cure her. It was your post that gave me the courage to begin writing my stuff here. Thank you for that. I have started putting my stuff in chronological order. Here is a small sampling: She39s Come Undone Elevate me... 
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LT...you are an amazing man...your courage comes through...I am one of the lucky ones who was spared this stealing of my innocent...and I am saddened anyone has to go through it...and it is just evil to do that to a child...Hugs to you... kind thoughts, Moonfire
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I didn't realize I had been abused. Not until I was 40 something. I had these feelings of terror that I couldn't understand. I didn't know where they came from. I began using drugs to escape them. It wasn't until I went to treatment that I came to realize what had happened to me. The memories came flooding back, it was terrible. For a long time after that I focused on what had happened to me in sort of a "how could they do this to me?" kinda way. Each time I thought of it, I became more distraught. I was encouraged to "work through it" by professionals. I finally had to stop focusing on it, it was time for me to move on. I feel better now that I have. This doesn't mean that I forgive my attackers, just that I am ready to stop dwelling on it.
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Just one of us to have this happen to ..is one too many...thank you for sharing your story..and to those that have felt this..your not alone...it is hard to deal with and to put behind us...Just when we think it is locked safely away it rears up again..as fresh as that day or time. Thank you Lusty *hugs*
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. It's ghastly to think that, as the allegedly most evolved specie on the planet, there are people who can somehow justify the sexual abuse of children to themselves. Anybody up for a good, old-fashioned Tar 'n' Feathering? I'll bring the pillows... . . Been a while since they last let me out into polite society. Resurfacing, catching a breath, & catching up.  And while I got my Broad-Brimmed Pimping Hat on, could I cajole all of y'all to Comment on, Alone In A Cloud? It's probably the best thing that I've written! Lately... .
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9/3/2007 7:51 pm |
G'day mate. I had not read the two earlier posts but I have now. Im amazed at your strength of character. My blog is a free-fire zone. Come armed with a sense of humor 
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"If people knew the truth, they wouldn't love me." oh But LT... You are loved... even before you opened up your heart... and now... even more so. Consider all my hugs to you to be full of that love... You are truly a beacon of love, yourself. tender hugs...m.
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9/4/2007 10:15 am |
Both my siblings were abused sexually and I was the only one who wasnt. WHat AM I UGLY? Seriously though, I always felt a sense of guilt for NOT being abused. I guess its kinda hard to understand from your perspective. I definitely have been seriously affected by sexual abuse though. Chasing the Rock and Roll dream for Life. Death is my back up plan!
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"If people knew the truth, they wouldn't love me." I'm back for another look, LT, to see if I can learn any tips from others. Due to multiple instances of abuse from age 5-19, for me it's more like "I wear my shame on the outside for all to see." I am trying to shake it, I really am. I have faced what I remember of it, understood that it wasn't my fault, and reconciled it, but it still plagues me. I thought if I faced it, it would go away. There are things I don't remember, but I know they're there, so I am considering hypnosis. I just don't know if it would be best to know it all, if knowing what I do already hasn't helped. Ramble on... hippie Elevate me...
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9/6/2007 1:15 pm |
Wow!!!Your post has just brought a tear to my eye as i to was a victim and was abused from the age of 3 by my older brother.It has taken me the best part of 11 years to finally face up to what happened to me and finally believe that it wasn't my fault. I truly am touched and if you dont mind will be linking to this post if i may.  'My path, my choices'-Hxx
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what a truly honest account, you are so brave, I wish you well, sir.
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9/10/2007 8:01 am |
I have lived with a dark secret. Still do. Someohow I feel I am protecting my family, my Mother especially. Just can't stand to think of my family becoming broken because I needed to get the secret out. My former husband had an experience similiar to you, by a his priest. Happened all through his early catholic school years. He was able to open up to me, but he never had the courage to go for help. He became dependant on drugs and I just couldn't help him. Even to this day I can't. Thank you so much for sharing. I admire your courage to help yourself and others.
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Sending you love...always  Just a little food for thought............. If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you... {=}
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nice post ! thank you for sharing !
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9/14/2007 4:47 am |
excellent post my friend. [post 977684] [post 1673788] [post 1567265] [post 2508587] [post 2511504] [post 2589132] Are You Ready For........[post 2587359] Check it out & particpate!! The BHL Blog Interviews...[post 2597695] The BHL Blog Index.......[post 2594103]     
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I am more than saddened by what I am sitting here reading. There was no abuse in my childhood. My parents and older sister were killed when I was very young. But I often wonder what it would be like to have a normal family. My only living fam is a sister and she raised me. I wish that she could have raised all of you, she is wonderful and caring. I know abuse is out there, I know what it can do to a person. I have seen it in friends and they tell me I am lucky. I guess I am. But you all have one another. You can vent and yell and scream. Because each of you know what they are going through. All I can do is let you vent on me.I have big shoulders. Hugs and kisses to all of you. You big bunch of survivors Thank a higher power for LT, dude you will always rock to me. ! If I were a crayon, I'd most likely be jammed up some kids nose.
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10/4/2007 7:30 pm |
It's always difficult for me to discuss this with my daughter, who was molested by a neighbour when she was 4. Last year, before she went to live with her dad, I knew it was important for me to talk with her about it and see how she was feeling. I did most of the talking, of course (she was 10), and I just kept asking her how she felt, reiterating about how I've checked every year to make sure he's still in jail, about how she did exactly the right thing by telling me and that she saved a lot of other little girls from the same thing...which I've told her before, but this time really made an impact. Then I mentioned something that hadn't occured to me, but had been brought up by my older sister who had been molested when she was a girl...I told her that no one could tell it had happened just by looking at her. the look of relief that washed over her face was a huge sign to let me know she had been very worried about it. I was so grateful to my sister for telling me that was something she had worried about. I kept telling my daughter that it was something bad that had happened to her, but that it didnt' make her any different than any other little girls and that she was perfectly normal. We did a lot of hugging and I was very very glad we had that discussion..... ps...thanks, LT, for always being open & honest with your pain and being a source of healing for many....the ripples spread out....
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