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What happens when one half of a couple no longer wants to play?  

ferrous_kitty 64M/64F
1 posts
4/10/2014 4:50 am
What happens when one half of a couple no longer wants to play?

My wife just informed me she no longer wants to play. I already knew we had to be extra careful because of her work, and that was no problem. This meant we could not go to big parties in our area like we used to just 3 year ago. I could live with that, but now nothing!

I like the life style and was in it before we meet. I introduced her to it while we were dating and we had fun playing and meeting really good nice people. Then we got married and it all changed. Now what am I supposed to do. I love her and she is the one for me. This decision will not end our marriage, but it does create a minor problem. What about me?

I still like being in a bed full of naked people. I still like watching her have fun with other men. I still like looking at the profiles on line and fantasizing about if we could all meet.

I know I’m not the only one this has happened to, so what do you think? Anybody out there in the same situation or do you know a couple who has gone throw this?
I think I would like to still play with some select friends from time to time, but part of my fun was being with my wife while playing. I like seeing her have fun with multiply people. It will not be the same, and I don’t know how she will feel about me going without her. We have not talked about that part yet. This situation is fluid since she just told me last Sunday. I told her she has been thinking about this for a long time and just figured out how to articulate it, but for me I need time to process it all and deal with the emotions I am going through.

Thanks

Ferrous_Kitty

oregon69guy 54M
68 posts
12/26/2018 10:03 am

 Tough call.I don't think it is fair when one half of couple decides to leave the lifestyle and tell the other they have to go also. I knew two couple that went through the same thing and solutions were different. The first couple would only let the active part play with old lifestyle friends and no one new. The other let the active one team with a long time single life style friend of their to form a non married lifestyle couple.

Best thing to do is talk to your lady and tell her your feels


ferrous_kitty replies on 11/28/2020 12:30 am:
Thanks for your comments on my blog, that I am just reading.

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