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Blogs > rm_UpNorthHiker > Any hope for a single guy?

Couples are Confusing  

rm_UpNorthHiker 49M
11 posts
10/6/2009 10:39 pm
Couples are Confusing

Sitting here bored on a Tuesday night, doing a little chatting, contemplating life and wondering why it is so many couples out there want to meet single guys but when they finally do meet a honest fun and interesting single guy (me) one or the other of them ends up getting jealous, upset, or just uncomfortable with the situation?

I make it a rule to always talk to the couples I am going to meet (okay not that there have been a lot, 4 different ones in my life) however I have experienced the same type of situation for three of them. I always make sure I follow their rules, I always stay within the set boundaries, and all I ever ask is that they be honest with me as well.

Why is it then that when I follow all the rules, I try to be a good friend as well as a playmate, and I never ask for anything more in return then what I give that one of the two of them always ended up being uncomfortable or jealous? I have never in my life stole someones wife or girlfriend away from them nor have I even considered it before but it always feels like that is what they end up being worried about. Does this happen to other people or is it just me? I feel horrible inside when a couple gets into fights because of me.

I have never caused any breakups or anything like that, I usually find a way to just back away from the relationship so that I don't have to feel guilty about the fighting. Just curious basically if anyone else has experienced this?

newbeet2 75M
22 posts
10/6/2009 11:36 pm

 I like yourself have had only two experiences with couples. The first was enjoyable. We had fun. The experience here was that I got to know them over a 6 month period.
The next encounter was pleasent. However I don't think we ever really connected. I never had any interaction with them prior to our first meeting. While the situation you are discribing never happen to me, I think there is a relationship. The enjoyable meeting took some time to develop. The other encounter happen too fast. There was no time to determine whether or not we had a rappor.
Encounters with other on this site do not happen very ofter. Yes we have friends. But how often do we meet? The only solution I can offer is to take time to really get to know the couple.


rm_musealchemy 55F
1642 posts
10/7/2009 1:54 am

 Most couples who swing are doing so in the last gasp of their relationship. Kind of like if we have a baby that will make things OK. They have issues but they're certainly not going to discuss them with you because then they'd have to face them.

Or

They haven't thoroughly discussed what happens if . . . before they start swinging so all the jealousies and insecurities start emerging and they can't deal with them.

Or

One partner has been talked or forced into doing this by the other; doesn't really want to be there and will throw a strop somewhere along the line because they don't want to be there and they don't want their partner having sex with anyone else.

Couples are ALWAYS a right royal pain in the backside and best avoided as a result. Meeting singles is much more stress free


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