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Blogs > Lionessnlv4you > Tales of a redhead Lioness...

WOW... I was called a unicorn...  

Lionessnlv4you 48F  
90 posts
9/14/2013 1:01 pm
WOW... I was called a unicorn...

I ran into an old friend with benefits a few days ago, really nice guy. He was with his wife, he introduced us. Her comment was: "So this is the unicorn".

I had to laugh at that, I have friends who are in polyamorous relationships and a unicorn is a female or male who is accepting of the primary relationship and do not do anything that would cause friction, drama, or interfere in any way with the primary.

They had moved away because of his work and they are now back in town. They have closed their marriage due to not being able to find the elusive "unicorn" in the area they had moved and the people they had met had caused stress on their marriage so they decided to "opt out" for a while.

When being an addition to a polyamorous relationship or an addition to any kind of relationship..you have to respect any and all boundaries that have been set, be open and honest, do your part to keep the lines of communication open and flowing in all directions.

It is not difficult to be a "unicorn", the main thing to remember... you are the "additional" not the "main".

Do not try to take the position of the "main" away from the person who has it. This will do nothing but cause drama and will get you removed from the position of "additional". If you do try and by some miracle succeed, soon you will be the one loosing your new "main" status as they will either realize you are not what you seemed to be and go back to their original "main" or they will replace you with the new "additional" when that person makes a play for the seat of power, or they will just drop you all together. None of those are fun options...

So play nice, and know going in what your position is in the relationship and if it is not an acceptable position for you, then simply don't do it.

You make the decisions to take the actions that you take, so if you decide to be an addition to a any form of relationship... respect it..

cur1ousone4 64M

12/1/2018 11:32 am

 I enjoy the "unicorn" role. But you are correct, it is a role you are playing and you are mainly there for their fantasy! Luckily for me, it's my fantasy also!!


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