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My Thoughts and Wants...
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My Thoughts and Wants... I recently answered an email and it got me to thinking (and anyone who knows me, knows this is dangerous.. lol). So here goes……… I don't see any point to being on a sex site but looking for love. Common sense says you will not find it here. If you do, applause for you. However for me, I have been married, engaged and in relationships (I enjoy those things, being someone's girlfriend, fiancee, or wife) but I know I will not find that person on here.. and I am not looking for that now. Recently out of a long term relationship and DO NOT want to be in another in the foreseeable future. So emotions are completely off the table. So I am looking for a friend, someone to hang out and do things with (cause I refuse to eat alone in a restaurant.. will not do it lol).. I don't expect that person to pay for me, I have a job. Then at some point in the "hanging out time" HOPEFULLY we will end up having sex... WWOOHHOOO Bring it on! Having knowledge of the person allows you to enjoy the “physical” aspect of the friendship even more. I am NOT interested in being a “tourist attraction”, a “hit and quit”, a “random fuck”, or a “one night stand”. If those are things YOU are looking for, then please feel free to not waste my time. I am a very playful person, I love to laugh and tease. I am rarely serious (but I can be when I have too). I do my best to not be moody (not going to lie it does sneak in once in a while and I tend to keep my distance when that happens cause I don't like me when moody, I doubt others would either). I am very affectionate in private and public, however I am also an adult and I know that affection does NOT have to have an emotional backer. For me affection with a FWB is foreplay.... a hug, a kiss, a touch, even holding hands is a prelude of what is happening later. I do NOT see it as "awww he is holding my hand, he must really like me". So just to recap and clarify…… 1. I am looking for a FRIEND WITH BENEFITS- this means someone to hang out with and if sex happens (which 99% of the time it should, lol) all the better. 2. I am looking for monogamy. The reason for this is two-fold. A. I am greedy plain and simple, why should you be fucking someone else when you could be fucking me. B. Health concerns- multiple partners equal a greater risk of catching something. Even with condoms there are still diseases that can be transmitted easily and I prefer to keep my risk as small as possible. Monogamy DOES NOT mean an emotional commitment. 3. Honesty is a MUST. Why lie?? The truth will come out eventually and if you tell a fib you have to actually REMEMBER it in case it comes up again or guess what… it bites you. Yes the truth can hurt, but seriously if honesty is prevalent in the friendship then most truths will not be a surprise. 4. Hanging out--- to me this is anything from chilling on the couch watching a movie, playing cards or board games, going to the park, having drinks, going to a movie, hanging out with like-minded friends (I have a lot of platonic friends from the site that I spend time with either at a bar, doing a bbq etc) or dinner,… whatever.. it’s things friends do… again.. I have a job and don’t expect anyone to pay my way. 5. Affection--- I am a VERY affectionate person in private and in public. I love to touch and be touched.. IT DOES NOT MEAN ANYTHING except FOREPLAY…. So don’t read more into it then there is. If you even have a doubt... ask, I will answer honestly and clear the matter up right then and there versus you sitting around thinking it is something it’s not. So…. Like I said.. it’s dangerous when I think. 
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You describe a friend with benefits... Someone to do "friend" activities with and "other" things. And it is never dangerous to sort things out and know exactly what you want. When you know what you want, you will enjoy things better because you are not torn or confused. Thinking is a good thing!
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I don't think your thinking is dangerous at all. The way you discribe it makes perfect sense to me. I'm looking for the same kind of thing. AB No Bozos
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